Showing posts with label family relationships. Show all posts
Showing posts with label family relationships. Show all posts

Tuesday, May 20, 2008

Tales from Town Lake: Strange Bedfellows & a Tornado


Taking to Town Lake running trail after the Austin Tornado was gratifying :-) All the 100 year old trees managed to Survive the winds, softball size hail and torrents of rain. Most relented and gave up their weak branches, receiving a "mental cleanse" from Mother Nature.

A Mental Cleanse? Yes! The weak branches were sucking life out of the trees, hanging on for dear life and causing the tree trunk and healthy branches to suffer and wan. Such it is with those of us who cling on to the dead wood in our mind; that which zaps our energies, causes us self doubt and stands in the way of our Success, Joys and Laughter.


A destructive tornado is not necessary for you to clean up your mind. There are some very specific steps you can take that will be positive;


1- Agree with yourself that you need to do some "personal work" to eliminate those ghosties and dead wood
2- Create a Goal to take steps to RESOLVE and LET GO those issues


What to do First?


1- Look at yourself in the mirror and wrap your arms around yourself and have a big hug.

Make sure you tell yourself that "you love you". This is not easy to do and you may have to start with just "liking yourself"!

2- Embark on a DAILY personal growth program (reading, writing, Cd's, tapes, DVDs) 15 minutes IN THE MORNING and then 30-45 minutes before you go to bed.

~~~Starting your day with positive action creates the footprint of your day.

~~~Ending your day with positive thoughts sets your mind to thinking and working through POSITIVE things.


3- Do not Judge yourself. Be KIND to yourself. Experience Joy, laughter and gratitude each and every day. Create a "Blessing Box" and put little notes in it daily. At the end of the day open it up and read your Blessings for the day.

What goes in your blessing box? Here's what is in mine for today so far;

~~~Thank you for raising the water in Town Lake so that the fishes have ample room to swim. Their beauty and frolicking is amazing and joyful!

~~~Thank you for my ability to complete 5.5k run today

~~~Thank you for the opportunity to behold the ducks who survived the tornado. ( White Duck lost her mate and a Mallard Duck adopted her. Since ducks mate for life, it was quite a beautiful thing to see and experience.

Relationships are amazing! Strange Bedfellows CAN create beautiful and lasting bonds!

~~~I am gratified and thankful to be able to offer $160 in free product to New Affiliates this week. (Please contact me for more information)


4. Set your goals and take action daily. Use The Slight Edge and understand that it will work for you IF you do not quite. Take baby steps toward your goals, each and every day.

5. Remember that only you control the thoughts in your mind. You can Vanquish the negative thoughts if you are aware of them and remember that you are in control of who visits your mind. It's valuable real estate. Take charge of who you let in!

6. Practice Abundance, Prosperity and Kindness towards YOURSELF, each and every day!

7. Remember, you ALREADY ARE who you think you are; just take action to bring it to you!


May your day be a treasure bringing Increase and Plenty to your door.

Practicing Abundance, Prosperity & Kindness EVERY DAY,

RS
RandiSusan Mallory
http://compassionatemarketing.com/
512.472.2604 Country Code 001
SKYPE: rsmallory

BE a Mentor with A Servant's Heart


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Wednesday, September 26, 2007

The many Faces of Perception

You are who you THINK you are :-) Really?

My Step Dad recently had a mini stroke and had the big artery “roto rootered” because of a 90% blockage.

We have been talking every day since then. I know him since I was 14 years old and he is a very large part of my life even though we have not been close in the past 20 Years or so. My Mom recently passed away and so I have been “repairing the relationship” with my Step Dad. I won’t bore you with family details, but I suddenly realized that there is a Life Lesson in what is happening NOW and it can and SHOULD BE applied to all of us as Compassionate Marketers :-)

PERCEPTION IS EVERYTHING

Families being what they are, it has been MY perception that my Step Dad really didn’t care about me thus did not pay attention to anything about me.

Yesterday we were talking on the phone and I mentioned that I had recently been awarded a Top Builder’s Award from my company.

This is what he said to me; “You know RS, I always knew you were a terrific “sales” person.” But LISTEN to what he said next…. “I remember when you were 18 and had come for dinner. You were selling Colliers Encyclopedias back then. “(I ran a team of people who sold these great books door to door!)

He continued,

“We were almost ready to sit down for dinner and you asked if we could wait about 15 – 30 minutes or so because you had been chatting with Mr. Jimmie the Superintendent of our building and he wanted to know more about the Set of Encyclopedias. You went downstairs to speak with Mr. Jimmie and came back up for Dinner in 17 minutes and had sold the set to Mr. Jimmie and his family! You were so very excited RS. I remember because I congratulated you on your sale and YOU said that it was so great that Mr. Jimmie’s children would have the opportunity to learn from these great books because it would give them a better start in school and they would get better grades and have better opportunities!” He continued, “I was impressed that you were more excited about the future of Mr. Jimmie’s children than making the sale. I knew you had a great future ahead of you and whatever you did would involve helping others.”

WOW! My Step Dad, all these (4) DECADES later (yeah, I am that old, lol) remembers AND respects me for my talents, even now.

Perception IS everything and I have been operating under the perception that my Step Dad

1- did not consider me part of the family
2- care about or take notice of my accomplishments
3- did not feel that my accomplishments were worthy or valuable

A friend has recently suggested that when someone has a stroke that different parts of the brain become ACTIVATED and memories come flooding in. My NEW perception however, is that I have a Step Dad who never knew how to express his feelings and even though he may have cared about me all these years, he had never expressed those feelings. (He waited 40 years until our conversation the other day to tell me how proud of me he was/is)

ALTERING OUR PERCEPTION

1- We do not have control over OTHER peoples feelings or Actions, but we sure DO have control over our own perceptions, feelings and actions.

2- What things have happened in your life that are stopping you from believing in yourself and taking action on things that you want and dream about?

3- What people in your life may think you are special but don’t know how to express themselves?

4- What are you DOING to grow yourself (personal development) and understand that it is YOUR PERCEPTION of the world around you and YOUR PERCEPTION of an encounter with someone as a Compassionate Marketer that really matters.

If you care about others and have the desire to Help people Live their Dreams they will FEEL your sincerity and be comfortable and want to be around you. For whatever reasons, it took my Step Dad 40 years to reach out to me, and it took the same 40 years for me to take a step back and change MY perception by paying attention, being caring and listening with my heart!

You see you ALREADY ARE everything you want to be. You just have to take action and believe!

Practicing Abundance, Prosperity & Kindness EVERY DAY,

RS
RandiSusan Mallory
Compassionate Marketing
512.472.2604 Country Code 001
SKYPE: rsmallory

BE a Mentor with A Servant's Heart

Copyright © 2007 RS Mallory/Compassionate Marketing , All Rights Reserved. May be used with Proper Attribution